Rules teach and we learn. For example, with dieting, you may decide to have desserts only on weekends as an experiment to gently lose weight.You make it a rule. It becomes a handrail to keep you on track and then it becomes automatic, part of you. You feel a calm, healthy sense of accomplishment. The rule has done its job.
The rules made for breaking are ones that serve no purpose. They are the ones that feel tedious. We need to let go of them and see what needs fixing and what doesn't. It's important to look at the big picture. Ask yourself:
- If I eat what I want right now, how will I feel about it in an hour?
- Is this rule important to achieve my long-term eating goals?
- What has changed? How can I use it to my advantage?
- How does my body respond to this old rule? Does it still make sense for me?