It's not about food; it's about you.
Intuitive eating starts with an appetite. When you use intuitive tools, you're the expert.
When you know what you're hungry for, you know what to eat. No more craving. No more stress around food. No more overeating.
Isn't it time for long-term satisfaction with your body and yourself?
Each time you eat a meal, you have one choice which is to satisfy your hunger. That is the purpose of eating. The way to do this is not so simple because of habits that tell you there are three choices when you see a large plate of food in front of you. These are:
#1: Allow things to work out is your intuitive choice.
This means you tune in to your body, and listen to your senses, and remember what you know from past eating experiences. If you tune in to your body and there is no hunger response, the choice is to not eat. You are not always hungry. This is listening to your inner truth. It is you, connecting with your intuition.
Allowing things to work out takes courage and determination. Courage is energy you are born with and can always tap into. Like your intuition, it is always present. ( March 2010 blogs speak about courage in depth.)
Allowing things to work out means trusting your inner truth, and connects with your self-esteem. Ultimately it feels great and you look great!
#2: Forcing your self is a habit.
When you force your self to eat certain foods, or within certain calorie constraints, you are fighting your self. The result is often dissatisfaction with your meal, and even rebelling by over-eating Even if you succeed in restricting your intake based on external rules, the victory is both hollow and temporary. 95% of people who lose weight by dieting gain it back.
Eating is natural. Instead of forcing your self, tune in to your body, and your heart, and reflect on what makes you feel good, when you eat. Connect with your whole self. When you trust your self, you will not be destructive.
Yes, it’s good to learn about diets and food. Curiosity is a powerful intuitive tool. Use it as a guide, and trust where you’re going. Reading this means you’re going toward your goal of being your healthy weight.
People who are starving are restricted by circumstances. Celebrate your good fortune by respecting your self and allowing things to work out. Keeping clear about your priorities connects with your inner courage and you feel liberated.
#3: Ignoring the problem is a habit.
Ignoring something doesn't make it go away. Because every meal brings a new set of circumstances, it is not always wrong to relax your sense of balance, and eat an extra donut to celebrate or have desert, because you are with good friends. However, ultimately you must respect your body and your senses, and not eat destructively.
It feels wrong to abandon your self-respect. Remember, if it feels wrong, it is wrong.
Relaxing "self-control" does not mean abandoning self-respect. It means allowing your self to listen to your whole being- heart, mind, soul and body and to stay in the moment. Trust your intuition, don't ignore it. Your intuition keeps your perspective clear so you can allow things to work out in your best interests.
You have one choice and you have habits. Habits around eating are not helpful. Lose those habits and enjoy the difference in your quality of Life!
I got the following question about last weeks blog that I want to share with everyone. I think the question about how to be social and pay attention to the smell and taste of food is one many people have. Let me know if this helps! ;)
Good blog. Especially relevant is being alert when eating. All too often, I find myself picking up the fork by rote without paying any attention to the smell and taste of the food. A huge challenge to this is while engaged in conversation with a table mate, how do you concentrate on the food when you're trying to pay attention and stay in the conversation? from Linda K.
Instead of focusing on concentrating on food only, be completely in the moment. Bring what matters to you in to the conversation. While engaging in the conversation, why not mention how good the food smells or tastes? Or why not mention the obscene size of the portion? Both of you are eating. I expect that the person you are socializing with also is wanting to be his or her healthy and attractive weight, and has concerns about food and eating.
You will discover that when you let the moments flow and keep alert about the big picture, then everything will happen as it should. When you relax while you eat, this is easier. When you relax, the person you are with will also! Try it and see!
It’s all connected- food, conversation, politics, your life.. Relaxing is to trust your self. Being true to your self means staying connected to the big picture of your Life. When you are eating and talking, the moment is not just about the conversation, or food, or why you two are together.
Being alert means seeing the big picture.
Following your intuition means: Trust what matters in your heart- and what matters is that you are committed to being good to your body, and your Life, by using your senses when you eat. Being kind to your self is not an option, it’s a responsibility. Life is a gift that comes with strings attached.
Many people don’t realize how fabulous Life is until they are dieing, or badly injured. Don’t wait to be disappointed. Instead, love your life. Be kind to your self.
Inner truth needs no defense. People find it charming because it feels “right" when they hear it.
Why limit what you feel in your heart? Some limits make sense because they give us strength. Limiting what matters to you in your heart, is self-defeating.
Your body clearly tells when you are hungry. It has a language all its own that is a kind of a nudge or at times a push, or even a kick in the gut. At other times, when you are around food, your body will communicate by feeling shut down. Learning to recognize your body’s language will help you to stay tuned in to when to eat and to what's good to eat.
Listening to your body will have it, and you, feeling satisfied and energized.
Tune in to your body language by respecting and feeling it. Here are ways to stay connected with your body when you eat:
First: Be Tolerant of your whole self- body and mind, by acknowledging that you are trying hard to eat smart for your body. Part of being tolerant is forgiving the past and staying in the present.
Hey- the present is the only thing that exists right now!
Second: Stay Alert by using your 6 senses (see, smell, taste, touch, hear, intuition) when you are around food. A lot of over eating happens because we don’t even notice we are putting food into our body. Being alert you will notice how your body feels when you eat.
Let your intuition work for you.
Trust your intuition the way you trust your ears and eyes. Using your 5 physical senses when you eat takes you away from what you’re thinking and connects you with your body.
Your intuition stays in touch with your mind, body, and your heart to keep your priorities clear.
Third: Stay Determined to follow through with being Tolerant and Alert.
Determination is your commitment to connect with your whole being for eating smart.
Determination is will-power. You have it!
You can rely on following your intuitive truth to create the changes you want.
Don’t wait until your body is screaming at you with gas or bloat pain. Don’t wait until your body is embarrassing you when you put on your bathing suit or when you’re ready to make love.
Listen to your body.
Then: Be proud of your body. Respect your whole self- body, mind, and heart and you will be proud of your self. Eat smart by respecting your self. Your body will be purring, and you will be happy.